If you are looking for a life cause, it is important to answer the global question “Who am I?” and more specifically “Who am I here? It’s worth starting with an understanding of yourself. And today we will talk about how to find a hobby as an adult.
5 Ways of Introspection:
1. Ask yourself questions. The list of questions for finding your calling is endless. Here are some of them: Why do I need to work? What am I interested in doing every day? What am I good at? What would I do if I didn’t have to work? What do I want to have accomplished in 10 years? What values were instilled in me as a child? Do I agree with them now?
The questions could be more specific: What books do I like to read the most? Can I find my way in an unfamiliar city? Do I like solving puzzles? Do I like animals? Am I easy to change my mind?
2 Ask those same questions of your loved ones. They’ve been watching you for years and can tell you non-obvious things about your personality and even superpowers.
3. look for new activities and don’t be afraid of new groups. X-ray machine for your interests and abilities – a new team, in interacting with people more clearly shows your personality. You involuntarily compare yourself with those around you. For example, what are you better at, how easily you get along with people, are you interested in what you and your new acquaintances do?
4. Look back at your childhood. What did you enjoy doing when you didn’t have to think about making money? When you didn’t have to worry about grades at school? Clay molding animals, building a treehouse or teasing the neighbor’s dog. That’s where the beginnings of a vocation lie in childhood.
5. Take an online career test. A good test is an objective tool that helps you understand your abilities, interests, and personality traits.
Hobbies in Life
Some lucky people have known the answer to the question “what to be” since childhood. And this knowledge is their wholehearted trust. Others try to determine the choice of their own way, probably by induction, combining advice and suggestions of friends and relatives with objective forecasts of the labor market. Or even apply “for the company” with friends.
We have all seen how it turns out. Abandoning a university halfway through is the smallest “misfortune” that can happen. And it is more likely to turn out to be a step towards finding yourself, rather than a loss. The realization that you are on the wrong track and doing the wrong thing can come even when you have already achieved a lot and are not satisfied. The worst thing is when the person does not even try to find an answer to the question, he denies it. His life is bifurcated: the life that he leads and the one that his soul yearns for and asks for are experienced as different, as two. Such an experience of bifurcation is excruciating, it either reminds one of the need to address the issue, or forces one to flee, to seek solace in alcohol, entertainment, etc. After all, when one does not grow, does not develop spiritually, does not realize oneself, one suffers, gets sick, suffers.
But How Then How Can One Find His Business?
One’s own, in which my meaning for the world will be embodied and fulfilled? It is necessary to search within oneself. It is by listening to ourselves, to our inner voice that we can find what is truly ours. However, “inside” does not mean “in black and white”, clearly and distinctly. It may take years or even a lifetime to understand what my predestination is, but the same years lived without self-discovery, without finding our own path, will certainly be wasted.
It is clear to us where to look. But now WHAT is the WHAT to look for? The answer is: what you love. The main criterion in our search is love. The pleasure of the process. After all, pleasure is the way that life tries to push us towards our destination. Passion, a strong interest in something, such that you find it difficult to tear yourself away from your pursuit, which would fill your life with meaning and joy.
If You Already Know What It Is That You Love to Do in Life, Then It’s Time to Answer the Next Question: How Do You Sell It to Society?
And if you don’t? It is not uncommon for my clients to say that they don’t know what it is that they enjoy doing in life. However, there really is no such thing. Even if you feel that your life is boring and lacks any significant interest, there is still something that you love, something that appeals to you, and it needs to be discovered. The material for investigation can be many things… Children’s dreams, your adult dreams, fantasies that you consider to be detached from life – there are grains in them. Even if your teenage poems were ordinary teenage poems, which we all write at sixteen, but you recollect them now, and along with them the image of the teacher who sent you to a literary institute, you remember it today. And that means it’s also about those dreams and desires you have now. Perhaps you know how to put your thoughts on paper, in writing. And you have thoughts that you think must be expressed. Then look for a way to translate that talent into your present. Do it.
Nevertheless, our vocation, that which we are ‘grounded’ in and born talented at, despite all the attempts of the educational system and the efforts of our parents, breaks through in us. It is always present in our lives, even if we do not pay attention to it for a long time. Observe yourself. Something you are already doing. Something is already there and gives itself away. Watch carefully.
Bottom Line
As a consequence of the fact that you enjoy your occupation, something is easy for you: for example, you have the ability to collect and analyze information, you do in 5 minutes what it would take others hours, maybe days or weeks to do. And because of the ease with which you manage what you’re capable of, you may not even notice it. But this simplicity is apparent; it shows you exactly what you are strong at and what your business is.